Stay in the fight

Years ago I was the leader of a volunteer organization that I led with all my strength.  We all really believed in the mission and worked hard to achieve our goals.  But, like most groups of people, there were a few complainers mixed in there.  And they quietly complained, and criticized every imperfection.  They worked […]

Optimistic AND Reliable

Many people have that wonderful tendency to be optimistic which makes them encouraging to be with.  It seems that often those same people have difficulty being reliable.  Others are not so optimistic, but you can take always count on them. But where is that rare person who is both optimistic AND reliable? Beyond doubt, both […]

Ingredients of Leadership

How people SEE you, what leadership TOOLS you have, and how your BRAIN thinks about leadership are 3 critical ingredients of leader success.  If you are growing leaders in your organization, or growing yourself as a leader, read on. People are always sizing each other up for various reasons.  One thing they look for are […]

Fred Picker’s shovel

  When you meet with people, give them respect.  Respect their time, their money, and their possessions.  Take pains to value their priorities even if they are different than yours.  This is common courtesy and it’s good business. Years ago I was a young man working on a building project and needed a shovel.  My […]

Check your emotions

  Many communications in the workplace (and at home) are derailed because of poorly used emotions.  Unless you control your emotions well during difficult conversations, those conversations are likely to turn out much different than you plan.  For many of us, using unchecked emotions create strong reactions in others as they misread our intentions.  You […]

Drink the Kool Aid

  Was it mass suicide or mass murder?  Whichever, it changed the meaning of drinking Kool Aid. In 1978 Cult leader Jim Jones was involved in the deaths of 900 of his followers in Guyana who drank Kool Aid laced with cyanide.  Here’s the wiki story: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jonestown Before this event, drinking kool aid meant having […]

“Do Not Do” list for Leaders

Here are a few critical things leaders must never do: 1. Don’t wimp out.  Be brave!  Never let them see you sweat. You will sweat of course. You’ll sweat the future, the details, the prospects, us, the competition, your own circumstances, because you’re responsible. Just don’t give in to fear.  Be strong and courageous.  We […]

If you want to build a ship…

  “If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up people to collect wood and don’t assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea“.   Antoine de Saint-Exupery. That’s a great way to build things.  Help people catch the same vision you have.  People […]

“I believe in you”

“I believe in you” are magic words.  Use them with anyone you manage, anyone in your organization, and anyone in your family.  Believing in people is magic because you communicate trust, empowerment, faith, and approval when you speak those words. It’s been said that most people wear an invisible sign on themselves that says “please […]

Ask vs Tell

The Social Style model is over 40 years old and is used by thousands of organizations to impact human relationships for the better. Social Style describes people on the assertive continuum from Ask to Tell.  Ask assertive people are slower to decide, ask more questions (because they are questioning every situation), are less aggressive, and […]